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10 tips for raising your children after divorce

Once your divorce is in the past, you can turn all your attention to the future. If you have children with your ex-spouse, now's the time to focus on their well-being.

Here are 10 tips for raising your children after divorce:

  • Never talk poorly about the other parent, as it can drive a stake between you and your children
  • Stick to a schedule, as it will allow you to remain organized and provide your children with the stability they need
  • Be open and honest at all times, taking your children's ages into consideration
  • Provide as much love and support as possible, even if this isn't your nature
  • Keep an open line of communication with your ex-spouse, as it will help you when co-parenting
  • Don't interfere when your children are spending time with their other parent
  • Never lose sight of the fact that your children are innocent victims and requires attention
  • Never make your children feel guilty about a decision to spend time with their other parent
  • Enjoy your alone time
  • Encourage your children to open up about their feelings on the present situation and the future

Who will keep the house in a divorce?

Matters of property division can quickly bog down the divorce process, with both individuals fighting to secure as many assets as possible.

While there are many assets to consider, the family house almost always moves to the forefront. Here's why: It's typically one of the largest assets that a couple jointly owns.

Are you following these visitation tips after your divorce?

Your divorce is finally in the past and you're now ready to move forward with your life.

If you have a child with your ex-spouse, you may have to turn your immediate attention to visitation. As the noncustodial parent, it will take some getting used to, but over time you should be able to settle into a groove.

Making a valid will in Illinois

Many people put off thinking about their estate planning as just another unpleasant task. However, taking care of these matters well in advance of when you anticipate an issue to arise can save a lot of trouble for your intended beneficiaries.

Making a will can be an important part of planning your estate. When there is no valid will, the state distributes the estate according to Illinois' intestacy provisions.

Dividing credit card debt in divorce: consider these points

Like many people going through a divorce, you may find yourself buried in credit card debt. It's important to remember that you have to divide debt, just the same as you do any assets you co-own with your spouse.

Here are some points of consideration regarding credit card debt in divorce:

  • If possible, leave your marriage without any joint credit card debt
  • Pay off joint credit card debt together
  • Divide debt down the middle for both individuals to transfer the amount into a credit card in his or her name
  • Don't use any joint credit cards after you decide to divorce
  • Keep detailed records of every credit card expense
  • Monitor your credit card account closely, so you will be alerted if your soon-to-be ex-spouse attempts to make an expensive purchase
  • Consider the many ways to pay off joint credit card debt,e.g., using money from a joint savings account

Could these co-parenting tips help you?

During your divorce, you'll work through a variety of issues regarding child custody and support (among other details).

Even though you have a parenting agreement in place, your work is not finished. You now need to get used to the fact that co-parenting is a way of life.

Child custody, visitation and summer vacation

As you turn your attention to summer vacation, you may soon realize that you have a lot to think about in regards to child custody and visitation.

For example, you need to discuss your trip with your ex-spouse as soon as possible, as there will be details to work through in regards to scheduling adjustments.

A marital agreement can take the tension out of marriage

You and your spouse may not have had a prenuptial agreement drawn up, thinking it would not be necessary. However, years of marriage bring changes in circumstances.

The two of you feel that at this point in your married life a marital agreement might be a good idea, and you have decided to learn more about it.

A property division checklist will ease your mind

There is a lot to worry about when moving through the divorce process, as you realize that your life is changing in many ways. For example, matters of property division will always be at the front of your mind. You know that the right approach could be the difference between receiving what you deserve and missing out in more ways than one.

A property division checklist can ease your mind, as it will give you the organization you need to complete the process of splitting your assets, liabilities and resources. Here are the four most important categories of any checklist:

  • Personal property. These are the many items you keep in your home, including: motor vehicles, artwork, china, electronics, home furnishings, clothes, and antiques and collectibles.
  • Real property. This typically includes your marital home, vacation and rental properties and any undeveloped land.
  • Financial assets. This is the category that often draws the most attention, as it includes: cash, bank accounts, retirement accounts, pensions, stocks, bonds, mutual funds, certificates of deposit and trusts.
  • Business assets. If you or your ex-spouse own part of a business, these assets could come into play during a divorce.
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